I recently caught up with a few old golfing buddies and expected our conversation to be about the Rugby World Cup, or the retirement of Richie MacCaw or the untimely death of Jonah Lomu.
I was somewhat surprised then when I was asked as to how "we" were to "resolve ISIS".
Without the recent atrocities in Paris I couldn't imagine that question being asked by a few non political geriatrics in the peaceful New Zealand countryside.
The ISIS marketing team would be delighted about the success of their global publicity strategies!
The French Governments response to the outrage was historically predictable and the unleashing of its aerial firepower to exascerbate the tyranny of weaponry is only legitimised to the extent of a public expectation for revenge and the need for politicians to seem to have a response to a threat to public safety.
The experiences of Vietnam, Cuba, Iran, Afghanistan, Northern Ireland and Palestine however is testimony to the fact that bombs don't resolve differences.
For whatever obscure and abhorrent doctrine that may have been prevalent in those countries at times, there is nothing more unifying than the knowledge that your friends and neighbours being slaughtered by someone else's bullets.
Nelson Mandela's 26 years in prison also shows that locking people away doesn't provide a solution when there is fundamentally a groundswell of support for those prepared to challenge convention and the establishment.
So I couldn't find an immediate response to my friend's question about ISIS.
I don't think the media has given much attention to how such an organisation has been established.
Clearly they have mass support - you can't organise a rebel army without it.
I can't tell you the name of their leaders but they all seem to be quite young.
Perhaps we should have a closer look at who they are and what has propelled them to such extreme behaviours rather than obliterate them in gunpowder.
Mimicing their aggression undermines our values for tolerance and understanding,
Resolving ISIS is not a one way ticket.
Wherever there are differences, the solution will always be found in compromise.